"Less" is always the best way to start out if you don't know exactly what a specific person likes. It's much safer to build up from "not enough" than to try to back down after shattering the mood by being too rough. The final argument to ensure that you always apply this rule is this -- If you start out "too" gentle/slowly, in most cases this just excites your lover more, even in the rare cases that it frustrates her a little. But if you start out "too" rough for her, it almost always turns her off to the whole thing.
The differences between women cannot be emphasized enough -- no matter what you have encountered so far, always assume that you have no idea what a new partner enjoys. It is entirely possible to have had many lovers, and think
A. They are all pretty much the same or
B. You've learned all of the variations, and can tell who's what.
But this can be (and usually is) just a matter of random chance...you happened to get several similar lovers. Eventually you will run into someone, or many people, who are completely different than those you've known before.
Don't start by going down on her. Work your way up to it. Exceptions may be if you're in a hurry before your Press Secretary shows up, or other situations where you're expected to act more directly. It's worth observing that "work your way up to it" remains true no matter how many times you've been with that lover. With a long-term lover it may seem like you can get right to the direct stuff, but working your way up still has the same effect of increasing her excitement, with most women.
Along the same line of reasoning, don't start licking her clitoris immediately, when you do g...
How often do you initiate sex?
All the time
Never
As often as my partner
Most of the time, but not always
I'm still a virgin
Quick Quiz
What social sex practice do humans and porpoises have in common?
Oral Sex
Anal Sex
Group sex
Straight sex
Fisting
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LOVE - When all the songs on the radio describe exactly how you
feel.
LUST - When the song on the radio determines how you do it.
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