I have joined this website to try to fulfill some of my needs. I am currently married but my wife does not like to have sex. Everybody I talk to thinks we need to "spice it up", but, she is a prude. She does not like porn, or toys, or lingerie or anything. I am at my end, I have two children with this woman and that is the only reason I am still in the relationship. I love my kids dearly, but I need more. My god, I haven't had a BJ in 12 years! Any suggestions?
Well for one do you love her???? I used to be a prude to (yes I know that may be a shock to everyone hehehe) but I found it had nothing to do with my husband and me , it was a time in our life that I worked full time came home attended to my childrens needs and didnt want to be bothered with sex , as soon as my children were at an age that they didnt need mom so much I started to get a little more into it, and now omggggggggg I cant get enough dont blame her please shes it took me 15 years to get through it and thank god I had a patient husband that waited it out .......... give her a chance to do the same and some day she might just be hangin out here with you.............. btw yes his hands took care of the problem at hand than but now mine do...........hehehehe
2nd--its easy to get into ruts (and I have no kids and married for alittle over 3--so take this or leave it.) SO, back to ruts-busy lives, etc--I imagine maybe she got into a rut and never came out. Do you make dates with her? I love dates-bc I can spend time getting ready, making me feel good, etc~~Then I am much more in a romantic mood then when he just rolls over to have at me....how about a date night? You could get her a massage, a mani/pedi as a gift for her that day-take her out, make her feel special-make it not about sex and maybe you will get some! Try this before? Life is complicated
Fireguy you got two great replies here, a great question from Peach and Rosie's response was great one as well, and totally on the mark for lots of women, one you should really consider..
We see so many men on here who say the same as you, the wife is not interested in sex et al..so they feel they need to find it here without her...to each their own but if you love your wife and want sex with HER, why dont you communicate with her and find out WHY she's not interested in sex...
It could be for all the reasons Rosie said, kids, working outside and inside the home, taking care of the house and cooking and cleaning, the list is endless for women who must do it all....and what do YOU do to help her out???? Do you go to your job and then just come home and expect dinner on the table etc or do you pitch in??? If you dont, think about ways to get more things done to help out the MRS, so she is less stressed, tired etc..then do things like hire a baby sitter from time to time and plan an evening out or even better take the kids to a babysitter and have a nice romantic date/dinner at home, and pamper her, get her in the mood, do the things that you used to do when you dated that brought you two together in the first place....ok with kids you cant be exactly as you were when single but with some planning and teamwork you can carve out some adult couple time, to talk, re-establish communication if there is none and rekindle the romance...
It took two of you to tango when you were dating, you must have put some effort in time, appearance, planning a date etc...when you started seeing your wife before you were married, use that as a starting point for now..to improve things etc...
all Ima gonna say is it takes two. Whatever issues she has, its takes two to make it work. The date thing is a great idea, would not do tabassco but hey thats just me
Trust me, Ive been to the place where sex is jsut another thing to get done for the day, now mind you I never said no, but I hated every minute too. It hurt me to feel like I had to. Ya might wanna try talkin to her too, find out what is wrong, ya know most of us are not good guessers, sometimes a real discussion open and honest works wonders.
Good idea BBC and I agree with that hubby didnt start that til about 10 years into the rut took me to jamaica got me away from the ruts in our life and yes it didnt completly take us out of the rut at that time but sure helped......... a woman loves to feel like shes wanted and needed and not in sex terms only.......make her feel special.....ok dr rosie will shut up now hehehe and yea bbc I was a prude lol if i had known he'd been taking care of his own pleasures i would have went ewwwwwwwwwww but now mmmmmm baby come here and show me how ...........
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